The Man that I Need

I don't know what else to do. I don't know how else to word it. I can't seem to get through to him. I can't seem to make a difference or make him actually listen to what I need to say.

I need him to spend time with me.
Every day he comes home from work. He may sit with me for a minute. Then he goes to the office to play on his computer and I don't see him again for the rest of the evening. I go to bed. He goes to bed. He falls right asleep and we don't have pillow talk. We do eat dinner together but if I'm not finished when he is, he just wants to get up and run away to the office. Not sit with me while I finish.

He can't manage simple cleaning chores.
When he does the dishes, he can't wipe off all of the counters, stove, and table and quite often he doesn't clean out the sink when he's done. A lot of the dishes aren't clean either and I end up having to rewash them.
When I ask him to clean the bathroom, it takes 2-4 weeks for it to happen even though it really needs to happen within a few days of when I asked. And then he does a half ass job. There is still dirt in there that I can wipe away with my finger. The garbage is never empty. The base of the toilet is never cleaned. And the floor is never washed.
If I ask him to clean the kitchen (take the stove apart and clean it, spot wash the cabinets, give the microwave a good wiping,...)... I've only asked him to do this once since we moved in here. And a month an a half later, I did it. It got to the point that I was worried about the food that was being prepared in that kitchen.
There is a trail that goes through my house. He'll pick something up, think of something else, go to retrieve that, put thing 1 in thing 2's spot and never go back to put thing 1 in it's own spot. Nothing has a home with him. There is stuff everywhere and if I don't stay on top of it for a few days, it takes me quite a while to straiten stuff up. There are lots of times when I can't find something that I'm looking for because he never put it away.

He doesn't respond when I talk.
If we're talking about something deeper than what happened that day, he will shut down when I talk to him. I'll tell him that something is making me feel some way and I'll be met with a blank stare if I'm not ignored all together.

I feel like a monster and a maid. He doesn't want to spend time with me or listen to me when I have something to say. If I wasn't here, he would live in a pig sty and never know where anything is!

He's the man I want to marry. Aside from the above faults, he's everything I wished for in my life partner. And some of the above faults (he really is a slob) is just lately and hasn't been forever. In other words, they are stuff that can be worked on and worked out.
But I don't feel like he wants to marry me. I don't feel like he's ever going to ask. I know we said that we would wait until after we were done school (another 5 years away) but I don't have any reassurance that it is actually going to happen.
I'm worried that we are going to move to Calgary (for any who don't know, I'm going there for him. I could do my schooling here but the program that he wants to take is offered in Calgary and on the East coast) and then he's going to change his mind and leave me. I've shown my commitment by saying that I'm going to follow him half way across the province but he hasn't offered me anything that shows his commitment.

I don't know what else to do. I don't know what else to say.

Now, on to a funeral.
Great way to start a rough day, eh?